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Have you ever noticed when parents feel embarrassed by the action of their child?

Mr & Mrs Life-Is-Not-Fair took their child whose name is I-Don’t-Have, to the home of Mr & Mrs You-Can-Have-It-All who have a child, whose name is, I-Have-It-All.

After the children had played together and it was time for I-Don’t-Have to go home, he felt a bit sad; I-Don’t-Have then took one of the toys of I-Have-It-All, with the hope the toy could go home with him.

At this point Mr & Mrs Life-Is-Not-Fair told their child I-Don’t-Have that he could not go home with the toy as it wasn’t his own.  I-Don’t-Have then burst into tears.

His parents tried to console him, but he was inconsolable; you would think that they could comfort him with the following words, ‘You have your own toys at home,’ but they could not comfort him with such words; he had no toys at home.  

He did not understand why he could not go home with just one toy.  I-Have-it-All had so many toys all over the house; he had over fifty toys.

I-Don’t-Have then looked at his parents and said, ‘It is not fair, how come I don’t have a toy and he has so many, and I can’t even take one for myself.’

Mr & Mrs Life-Is-Not-Fair then looked at each other, and they felt embarrassed in the presence of Mr & Mrs You-Can-Have-It-All and their child I-Have-It-All.

Are you thinking that the child I-Don’t-Have has shown his parents up and he deserves a smack when he gets home?

Or could it be that you are thinking, ‘poor child, learn not to want what is not yours?’

Some might say a child will always behave like a child.

What ever you think of the child I-Don’t-Have, how do you think some people in society are coping who find themselves in the same situation as I-Don’t-Have?

As some people look around them, they can see people with so much luxury; far from it for them to want those luxuries; all they want are the basics of life (food, shelter, clothing, education, a chance in life, a source of livelihood, and people around them who care for them).

All they want is the one toy, and yet it is not offered to them.

For some people they are invisible, society doesn’t reckon with them all because they have a ‘begging bowl.’  Make no mistake about it; some people carry a ‘begging bowl’ who are not meant to be carrying one, all for an easy life (Laziness).  But for some, they carry a ‘begging bowl’ all because of they are in desperate need.

‘There was a rich man who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day.  At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores and longing to eat what fell from the rich man’s table…..’ Luke 16:19-21

What is it like not to have?  It’s only those that do not have that can really tell you what it feels like, but for some of those who have, this is a question far from their thoughts.

There are many people with the name I-Don’t-Have who find themselves in places with people by the name, I-Have-It-All; they can see all the toys and their hope is that they can have just one for themselves.

An excerpt from the Holy Bible reads like this, ‘When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them…….’ Mark 6:34

Mr & Mrs Life-Is-Not-Fair carried themselves with dignity, despite the fact that they knew they did not have, they still wanted their child to conduct himself in a proper manner; they wanted their child to grow up with an ethos of not taking what did not belong to him.

As you look around can you see what people lack? 

What can you do?

‘Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food.  If one of you says to him, “Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it?  In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.’  James 2:15-17

You might be able to make a difference in the lives of those who lack if COMPASSION comes to mind.

Rev. David Ibiayo

Rector of St. Chad, Vange, and Priest-in-Charge of St. Margaret, Bowers Gifford with North Benfleet.



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